It’s one thing saying you’re going to be kind and quite another putting it into practice. This whole week I’ve been feeling that my kindness towards others has just resulted in people taking advantage of me. So, I re-evaluated things. Firstly, I had to come to terms with the idea that those who seem like they don’t deserve kindness perhaps need it the most and secondly, I am a finite resource that relies on the principle of give and take [like most living things].
Perhaps it is not the true gist of kindness but I have decided to be more selective with who I hand it out to. No one needs to be a martyr.
Kindness is defined as friendliness, generosity and consideration toward others. I do believe that I am a kind person generally but I have ramped it up somewhat in my day to day life. I am also making more of an effort to show kindness and appreciation toward the people I hold close to my heart.
It is tiring.
Before I say anything I think about the impact that it will have on the person hearing it. Every action of mine is taken to autopsy and cross examined for motive. I’m worried that I will overthink myself to death and in essence, be killed by kindness.
People say that it is easy to be kind, but it isn’t. When you are faced with a daily onslaught of bad news, gloomy outlooks and generally bad tempered people it is too easy to fall into that same trap. Kindness is like a tree, it needs to be fed and nurtured over a long period of time but it can be destroyed in seconds. Don’t be the woodcutter, no matter how temptingly sharp your axe may be.
True kindness is very much like warm milk, seasoned with vanilla and cinnamon, sipped whilst you are wrapped in a blanket. True kindness, given without motive and received with gratitude is hygge for your heart.
Be kind. Be happy. Always keep the faith that people are better than you think they are. And so are you.
Guard well within yourself, that hidden treasure kindness – George Sand